I don't think you're bomb throwers or anything - I think you have the same qualities as some of my Christian mates who think nothing in this world could possibly be as good as their ideal model.
Everything in this imperfect world falls short of the glittering image of the afterworld they have in their heads. In the same way you have this picture of an ideal world and an ideal inhabitant of that world and you judge the real world by it. Inevitably the real world comes up badly. You write:

'they [ie real-life revolutions] have done nothing more for the opressed than bring about (much needed, but not enough) reforms'

But what's your definition of reforms? Basically, every positive measure that falls short of your impossible ideal. Revolutions and non-revolutionary mass movements led by non-anarchists and dominated by non-anarchist ideologies has resulted in the abolition of slavery, national independence, a living wage, equal rights for women, land reform so that people in the countryside don't starve, and so on - there are thousands of positives I could list. But you think less about these things that what the revolutions/mass movements haven't achieved. You're always looking at the bottle and seeing it half empty rather than half full. And ordinary people just don't relate to your thinking, because they don't think in the same way as you. I remember anarchists in NZ handing out leaflets decades ago saying the same stuff as you. They went in the bin. People went on voting. They'll go on voting. Cam has a more workable approach, though you have a more beautiful vision.